|Whose needs do I consider when planning my funeral? My family’s or mine?
Funerals are for the survivors. The funeral serves as on-going testimony that a life has been lived. It serves as a last act of recognition, honor, respect, and reunion of heartfelt memories.
It is also a gathering of social significance. Publicly, love is both expressed and received. The funeral serves the survivors emotional needs; expressing grief is one of those needs.
The advantage of involving loved ones in pre-arranging also brings the formerly “taboo” subject of death into the open. Planning ahead with family helps ensure that the funeral will be meaningful to the participants, while still reflecting your individual preferences.
Why I Switched from Burial to Cremation
By Debbie Oakes
Scriptures that convinced me cremation is okay.
And Joseph said to his brethren, “I am dying; but God will surely visit you, and bring you out of this land to the land of which He swore to Abraham, to Isaac, and to Jacob. Then Joseph took an oath from the children of Israel, saying, “God will surely visit you, and you shall carry up my bones from here.” So Joseph died, being 110 years old; and they embalmed him, and he was put in a coffin in Egypt.
JOSEPH’S BONES WERE GOING TO BE TAKEN TO THE PROMISED LAND – NOT HIS BODY WHICH WOULD BE GONE BY THEN.
And Moses took the bones of Joseph with him, for he had placed the children of Israel under solemn oath, saying, “God will surely visit you, and you shall carry up my bones from here with you.”
The bones of Joseph, which the children of Israel had brought up out of Egypt, they buried at Shechem, in the plot of ground which Jacob had bought from the sons of Hamor the father of Shechem for one hundred pieces of silver, and which had become an inheritance of the children of Joseph.
Hebrews 11:22 By faith Joseph, when he was dying, made mention of the departure of the children of Israel, and gave instructions concerning his bones.
1 Samuel 31:11-13 Now when the inhabitants of Jabesh Gilead heard what the Philistines had done to Saul, all the valiant men arose and traveled all night, and took the body of Saul and the bodies of his sons from the wall of Beth Shan; and they came to Jabesh and burned them there. Then they took their bones and buried them under the tamarisk tree at Jabesh, and fasted seven days.
2 Samuel 21:12 – 14 Then David went and took the bones of Saul, and the bones of Jonathan his son, from the men of Jabesh Gilead who had stolen them from the street of Beth Shan, where the Philistines had hung them up, after the Philistines had struck down Saul in Gilboa. So he brought up the bones of Saul and the bones of Jonathan his son from there; and they gathered the bones of those who had been hanged. They buried the bones of Saul and Jonathan his son in the country of Benjamin in Zelah, in the tomb of Kish his father. So they performed all that the king commanded. And after that God heeded the prayer for the land.
After reading these scriptures, I could see that it’s our bones that are important to bury. Our clothes and flesh decompose, but our bones don’t. So, my thought was, I’d be happy about cremating my body if they could do it so my bones weren’t turned into ashes.
Then recently, Shirley Lain said to me that our cremated remains are not JUST ashes as everyone describes. Cremation burns away everything except our bones!! Then they are crushed into small pieces so none of them are recognizable.
Wow! That’s great!!
I can still have my body embalmed, dressed with my hair done and make-up and placed in a casket for my family to view and say goodbye. I have my paperwork done, giving Heritage/Dilday permission to do that. But after that, Heritage/Dilday will cremate me, and place my remains “bones” into a grave site since I already have one, but without the other expenses: cost of building a container to hold the coffin while it’s in the ground, plus the coffin, digging the hole, etc.
So instead of purchasing Life Insurance, which requires me to keep up the payments until my death, I will purchase pre-need insurance for the amount it will cost to cremate me and the other things I want done. That will keep the cost down because I’m purchasing it ahead of time (perhaps 20 years early). The cost in 20 years will probably double twice!!
Come in for an appointment to fill out a very important form.
Shirley will tell you why it’s important for them to keep it on file for you, no matter what mortuary you end up using.
Give your family one less thing to worry about when you’re gone, and help your family do the same for you.
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